A Happy Place and Time

I am happy and I'm not afraid to say it. There are a lot of things in my life I am thankful for and that bring me joy. I find myself to be in a very happy place and time, I've been here for a while and I dont want to leave. Part of me feels guilty sharing my happiness, because others may not be so lucky. I've decided more people needed to share their happy and make it the norm, and then we won't feel so bad about it. Happiness shouldn't be something you feel the need to hide, it needs to be available for all. I haven't always been here in theis good place, I am guilty of being a negative thinker, and I have been known to spend some time in my dark corners. But I've learned a new perspective, and how to step out of those dark corners, and I'm thankful for it. 

I don't think finding happiness is hard, but I also don't think a lot of people know where to look. I find myself surrounded by unhappy. People around me unsatisfied with their job, home, atmosphere, with a poor outlook of the future, wishing for something better, you name it. It's not just those close to me, we are all completely surrounded, and I see how easy it can be to get sucked in. It's easy to view the world with a negative eye, with the plethora of negative news stories coming at you from every angle. It's easy to dwell on the "their life looks so much better than mine" image social media throws in our face. It's easy to lose sight all the real things in our lives that make them so great. It's easy to get sucked into those dark corners of grief we all have. It's also easy to learn to let go of those things and step into the realm of positivity. 

Finding yourself in a happy place in time doesn't have to be a chore. It can come as easily as tying your shoe, and can happen all the time. But just like tying your shoe, you have to learn how. If you're always thinking of what will go wrong, how unfair things are, what could be better, just in general having a negetively focused lens on life, it'll be very hard to find yourself in a happy place. It can be difficult to adjust that lens once it's been focused on negatives for so long. Once you're used to seeing things half full as they say, it's easy to continue that pattern.  It's a habit, and like any other undesirable habit (ie. bad posture or smoking) it can be changed with just a bit of practice. 

You need to train yourself to see the good over the bad. It's all about a change in persepctive. You can't ignore the bad entirely, that's impossible, but you can counter it with positive to make it less corosive. Start small, by simply recognizing when you are having a negative thought. You may not even realize just how often negativitey takes over. Once you notice it, then you can start to alter it. When you catch yourself in a negetive mindset, stop and try to come up with a positive spin on the situation, or a few. When you find yourself going down that rabbit hole of things that didn't turn out the way you had hoped, stop and think of something that turned out better than expected. When you can't stop thinking, why does this always happen to me, stop and think of something or someone in your life that you are thankful for. 

I realize there are some dark corners in life, full of some serious grief, and you can't ingore or forget those. There is space for those feelings and you need to feel them. You can't hole up in those corners though. I have plenty dark corners that are easy to get sucked into, everyone does. It doesn't matter what's in them, everyone has them, they are all different, but they are all dark and scary. You need to spend the time in there, experienc those thoughts and feelings, explore the darkness and then step out again. Those dark corners aren't meant for living in, you have to come back out and live in the sunshine. 

The more often you think of things that are good in your life the easier it will be to do so. It's the best snowball effect ever. Feel good about finding and sharing your happiness, don't be ashamed of it. A quote from one of my favorite authors says it best "If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams, and you will always look lovely" -Roald Dahl. 

ps. I would like to acknowledge that I don't think everyone is only negative all the time. There are a lot of wonderfully positive folks in my life that I am incredibly thankful for. I just think we could all stand to have a little more positive extras in our lives, and who doesn't like a good extra. 

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